"Normality"
It’s the end of March! How did we get here so quickly? We are settled in our new home with the major changes completed. It’s great to not have builders in an out of the property often. We opened our home to the first guests in early March and had a wonderful celebration of my Dad’s 75th birthday together.
I enjoy structure and yes that can be difficult in the complexity of life. It gives me time to ground myself and not feel like I am hanging on by a thread with all my responsibilities and demands on my time. I get to order my day and choose what I focus on. Now this can change in a blink of an eye. For now we enjoy the sense of “normality”, the familiarity of structure.
It has taken me longer than expected this year to get things in order. Some of the great strides I have made have been undone, while I focus on other priorities in my life or just learn to acknowledge that I am where I need to be for now.
I have grown in many ways through this process. As a friend said this week, maybe it is Kamin 3.0 in the making now. We can often be so hard on ourselves.
Self-empathy is a core skill we can all work on developing.
Probably the best way to explain self-empathy is to say how you can cultivate it. It’s easier to understand when you see it in action. Here are four steps to self-empathy and self-kindness.
1. Recognize Yourself as a Feeling Being
Recognize that you’re a feeling being. You are wired to feel. You feelings are important to you. Having self-empathy involves accepting that it’s OK to feel.
2. Sense Your Deepest Needs
Having self-empathy involves having a sensitivity to our emotional needs.
3. Understand That Life Is Challenging
You’re not failing when you’re having a hard time, you’re just being human.
4. Offer Yourself Kindness and Support
We start to think of it as natural for us to give ourselves support and encouragement as we encounter life’s inevitable difficulties.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. And who, out of this “everyone,” do you encounter most often?
That person is, of course, yourself.
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