Being late

I asked a friend this morning to give me a random topic as inspiration for this weekly newsletter. Here are some she shared:

  • Letting go of fear to step onto the stage

  • You are destined for greatness

  • Fear is but a word

  • Don’t eat eggs when you don’t feel like them

  • Inspiring greatness in others

  • What thoughts did you wake up with this morning

The later had us going into a conversation about being late and how it makes us feel. Do you panic when you are going to be late? Do others that are waiting for you express their feelings about you being late?

So the conversation deepened to time being about respect.

Punctual people may believe that late people are passive-aggressive and that their time is more valuable than those who wait for them. But reasons for lateness are generally more complex. The reason may be the opposite of arrogance. It could be that they don’t value themselves enough. If this is the case, might they be unable to see how others could possibly mind their non-appearance?

Lateness can also be caused when we have a reluctance to change gear – to end one activity and start another. We don’t like getting up, we put off going to bed. Stopping something we are absorbed in to do something else can be annoying. It takes willpower to carry out. But if we don’t change gear in time when someone is waiting for us, we are in danger of being judged as selfish.

What feelings arise for you when you are late? Is there a sense of being judged? So my curiousity led me to read more about this. Here is the article.